21 Days to Better Boundaries

A Guide to Setting Boundaries with Kindness + Compassion

Non-Fiction - Self Help
134 Pages
Reviewed on 10/24/2022
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Author Biography

Ann Weiser Cornell, PhD, is the co-developer (with Barbara McGavin) of Inner Relationship Focusing and Untangling®. Ann learned Focusing in 1972 from its developer, Eugene Gendlin, and was his close friend and colleague to the end of his life.

As the CEO of Focusing Resources, she has taught in twenty countries around the world for more than thirty-five years, as well as online. Ann has written a number of definitive books on Focusing, including The Power of Focusing: A Practical Guide to Emotional Self-Healing, The Radical Acceptance of Everything, and Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change.

    Book Review

Reviewed by Courtnee Turner Hoyle for Readers' Favorite

Ann Weiser Cornell's 21 Days to Better Boundaries is a daily companion intended to help the reader engage in a healthier thought process to aid in establishing better-defined boundaries as they learn more about their thoughts and feelings. After defining terms that would be highlighted in the material, like focusing, the book breaks down key points into daily practices, establishing a routine for readers.

The book is segmented into easily digestible units so even busy individuals will have an easier time absorbing the contents. I feel that the author’s approach will lead to better absorption of the material and a higher likelihood that the practices will be applied longer than twenty-one days. The author helps her readers recognize the feelings they have when they respond negatively or positively, and how setting boundaries can establish clearer pathways of communication between people. Some of the suggestions can be challenging, but as the reader implements them, the results can be transformative!

I found the activities in 21 Days to Better Boundaries useful and empowering. Even though I read the book over a shorter time span than the title suggested, I plan to go back and apply each point to my daily life until the practices become second nature to me. Ann Weiser Cornell Ph. D. does not leave her readers after the last page. In addition to the book, the author provides free videos and other resources that can be used to encourage a healthier mindset. I recommend this guide to readers who seek more open and fulfilling personal connections while remaining true to their values and self-worth.

Marie-Hélène Fasquel

Ann Weiser Cornell's 21 Days to Better Boundaries: A Guide to Setting Boundaries with Kindness and Compassion is an essential self-help book that will be useful to many readers. It is comprehensive, even including chapters I would not have thought of but that are extremely important when dealing with this issue, as well as being progressive. It begins with personal experiences, continues with definitions (to make sure we are all using the same concepts and understand what is involved), adds a practice for each day (for 3 weeks) divided into baby steps, and goes on to explanations (what’s important to take into account, to understand, to grasp) and so much more!

Ann Weiser Cornell's 21 Days to Better Boundaries is a fabulous guide that will accompany me on my journey to better boundaries for the weeks to come but, more importantly, for years to come. We tend to forget our good intentions and must be reminded once in a while. Re-reading books that helped us overcome some of our problems is one way of doing that. Indeed, setting better and healthier boundaries, and thus taking into account our worth as a person, our right to our voice, our own needs and values, and a better connection with other people, are vital and indispensable skills we need to develop. That is a problem I have always had trouble with, and I am grateful to the author for this gradual, engaging, and lively guide. I highly and wholeheartedly recommend it.

Luwi Nyakansaila

Ann Weiser Cornell's 21 Days to Better Boundaries is a self-help book about creating boundaries with people without coming off as rude, selfish, and making anyone angry. The author gives exercises that will help you create boundaries and test where they are needed. The book tackles topics like the difference between being selfish and making good decisions for your well-being. The author gives a perfect guide to setting boundaries to ensure that your needs are met and you do not offend anyone in the process. The author also addresses the topic of building better relationships with people in your life. Setting standards and values for yourself will help you attract the right people into your life, and the right set of boundaries will lead to balanced and strong bonds. One of the best benefits of following this 21-day program will lead to you having confidence and having your voice heard and not overlooked.

I love the concept of Ann Weiser Cornell's 21 Days to Better Boundaries. The lessons learned in this guide are helpful to everyone. It is difficult to create boundaries with people or even yourself. Sometimes you will not even notice that you require boundaries. The simplified steps to get to the root cause of someone's boundary issues were a breath of fresh air. The steps were easy to follow and can be understood by everybody. I recommend this book to all readers. Putting these exercises into practice and making them part of your life will make a big difference. Many people are afraid of rejection and lead miserable lives trying to please people who do not even care about them. Read this book today to get the power to put your happiness first, but still maintain great relationships with the people around you.