Sometimes you are faced with social situations where you have to make conversation with a complete stranger. For many of us, including myself, the thought of walking into a room full of strangers and starting a conversation is abhorrent. As I approach the person, you can literally hear the tumbleweeds go past, as I struggle to find something of any interest to say. So maybe you are about to attend a networking event to build your list of connections, and you are wondering how you are going to make a good impression? I have compiled a small action plan to get you started in the art of conversation. Hopefully, you will make a good impact at your next social event.

Compliments are the ideal approach to start a discussion. They are an excellent opening to any conversation for two reasons; first, they make the person feel good about themselves and instantly they feel an infinity with you, but second, it is a great open door to a discussion. You have started the conversation in a polite and positive way and that is vital. Ensure your compliments are specific, so do not compliment the person on their dress sense overall, but focus in on a particular item, such as their shoes. Where did you get those beautiful shoes? I am sure I saw So-and-So wear those shoes on the red carpet the other day? You have been specific and sincere, and the person is very likely going to ask you questions about yourself in return.

Many people feel that using small talk in a conversation is a definite no-no. But, in fact, small talk if used wisely can be very helpful. Although it is not the most enlightening, people use small talk all the time. It is the perfect introduction to a deeper conversation. So, you can make a comment about the venue, or something that happened to you on the way to the venue, even the weather if you are desperate. Small talk is a great ice breaker. The weather, for instance, is an experience that you have in common and therefore the person can relate to it.

Don't forget to ask lots of questions about the person and use good eye contact while they are answering you. I do know someone who always seems interested in what I am doing, but as soon as I begin to answer her question, she begins to gaze over my shoulder as if I am boring her. So listen to the person talking, and when you see an opportunity to ask a question, do it. Pay as much attention to their answer for more ‘tell me about it’ opportunities. If you find you are stuck for conversation topics, because the other person does not feel comfortable talking about themselves, then simply tell them an amusing story about yourself to break the ice.

Keep the conversation as light as possible. Don't introduce yourself with endless complaints about the venue, or how miserable your life is. Keep the conversation positive, maybe memorise a few good jokes, funny stories or anecdotes. People tend to be drawn to those who possess a positive mental attitude.

Finally, be friendly, make your body language positive, and try to smile even if you are a complete nervous wreck inside. Show a genuine interest in others; your level of friendliness can draw people towards you or make them run in the opposite direction. With a little practice, you will feel at home in any social situation.