Raising Black Boys to Men

A Mother's Guide to Raising Thugless Sons

Non-Fiction - Parenting
48 Pages
Reviewed on 12/09/2014
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Author Biography

Patricia Joseph is a wife, mother of three sons and a daughter, writer, and web communications specialist. She is committed and passionate about building stronger families. She earned her B.S. in Journalism from the University of Massachusetts, at Amherst.

When she's not developing her writing craft, Patricia spends her time relaxing with hubby, gardening, listening to jazz, or cooking.

An exceptional home cook, vegetarian, and natural lifestyle enthusiast, Patricia loves sharing information and her passion for food and healthy living, on her Eat Well and Live Healthy blog (http://eatandlivehealthy.wordpress.com).

Visit Patricia's blog: http://raisingblackboystomen.wordpress.com, to read her insights and share your views on Raising Black Boys to Men.

    Book Review

Reviewed by Jack Magnus for Readers' Favorite

Raising Black Boys to Men: A Mother’s Guide to Raising Thugless Sons is a motivational self-help guide to parenting written by Patricia Joseph. Joseph and her four brothers were raised by her widowed mother, and much of the author’s inspiration is taken from her mother’s example. Joseph and her husband have raised three sons, who are now responsible and successful adults. In her introduction, Joseph quotes alarming statistics with reference to young Black males, and she argues that, with the proper parenting, many of these tragedies need not occur. Her strategies begin virtually from birth. She raised her children to see her nurturing side as well as her strength. When they began to seem to ignore her or not acknowledge her authority, her husband took over. Joseph instilled responsibility from an early age and assigned chores and jobs to each child as they grew. She helped them open bank accounts and inspired them to become entrepreneurs to teach them how to manage money, and she trained them to be respectful of women. Joseph includes several appendices to this book, one of which has a number of recommended readings.

Patricia Joseph’s motivational self-help guide to parenting, Raising Black Boys to Men: A Mother’s Guide to Raising Thugless Sons, comes at a crucially important time in our culture. Young Black men are far more likely to be harassed by those in authority and blamed for crimes, whether they are at fault or not. The toll on families and parents is stunning, and the premature death of each person is a loss for all. While I am neither Black, nor a parent, I was motivated to read this book because I am so concerned by the most recent deaths of young Blacks and the questionable decisions made by the Grand Juries in each case. While everyone acknowledges the unfairness and illegality of racial profiling, it is still very much a reality. Mothers have a huge responsibility to raise children who can help turn the statistics around, and, if approached by authority figures, are fully cognizant of the dangers facing them and know how to minimize them. Joseph speaks passionately and with the authority of a concerned and caring mother. While I have a very different take on corporal punishment, I have a lot of respect for the advice and wisdom imparted by this author. Raising Black Boys to Men: A Mother’s Guide to Raising Thugless Sons is highly recommended.

Viga Boland

You might wonder why Patricia Joseph didn't just title her book Raising Boys to Men. That would have been a catchy enough title. But it would completely miss the point that Raising Black Boys to Men has its own issues that are quite different from just raising any son. Patricia Joseph is acutely aware of the fact that in many American neighbourhoods, it's the young, black men who are committing too many senseless crimes. Her book Raising Black Boys to Men is an attempt to help parents avoid the heartache of seeing their black sons head down a path of self-destruction that often leaves them in jail or worse yet, dead. After all, despite whatever crime they have committed, they are still somebody's son and will be mourned along with the others whom they might harm because they haven't been taught to love themselves in the first place.

As Patricia Joseph writes: "Self love is empowering. We gain confidence in our abilities and ourselves. Most of all, it frees us to love and accept others. A lack of self-love can manifest itself in many ways: verbal and physical abuse of others and destruction of property."

So what then can a mother do to make sure her sons grow to love themselves and others? Patricia Joseph offers many chapters that are full of everyday common sense, the stuff we essentially all know but often fail to remember. She keeps the chapters short and sums each up in 2 or 3 points. She has researched her subject extensively and includes a bibliography to support her statements. And she delivers it all in easy, conversational language such as she might use if she were chatting with you over a cup of coffee. The proof of Patricia Joseph's wisdom is her three black sons of whom she is justifiably proud. If what she suggests worked for her, it can work for others. For that matter, Raising Black Boys to Men is a quick, worthwhile read, even if your sons aren't black!

Faridah Nassozi

Raising Black Boys To Men: A Mother's Guide to Raising Thugless Sons by Patricia Joseph is a mother's guide on how to prepare black boys for the challenges they are bound to encounter on their journey to manhood. There are very many challenges and temptations black boys face on their journey into adulthood and it is very easy for them to be taken into the wrong lifestyle, destroying all their chances at a bright future. In this book, Patricia Joseph provides tips on what mothers can do to help these boys avoid falling into the traps life has set for them and mature into responsible men. She advises that mothers should start grooming their sons at an early age and points out factors like spirituality, independence, respect, education and several others as some of the key things that should be instilled in a boy's young brain. The book guides you on what to do for your child at every different stage of his life, from when he is a just a little toddler until he becomes a responsible adult.

Raising Black Boys To Men: A Mother's Guide to Raising Thugless Sons by Patricia Joseph is an easy and realistic guide. A mother of three boys herself, Patricia Joseph has faced the same challenges mothers everywhere face when it comes to raising their sons. She takes from the 28 years of experience that she has gained from raising her own sons and uses the triumphs and failures from her own journey to deliver priceless lessons on how to raise black boys into responsible men. I especially loved how she wrote her book; reading it felt like reading one mother's letters to another mother. The fact that she included her personal story made the book more intimate and hence a more endearing read for all mothers. I also loved that she did not claim to be a guru at this and acknowledged that she might not be able to help every single situation because motherhood is not a copy-and-paste job, but one mother can always learn from another. She acknowledged that many challenges will always exist when it comes to raising black boys and there is no foolproof method in motherhood, but a mother should always try her best to guide her boys. There will be challenges and even some failures along the way, but every effort will count in determining what kind of man your son becomes.