Changing Course Gracefully

A Strategic Guide to Building Foundational Self-Trust

Non-Fiction - Self Help
164 Pages
Reviewed on 01/27/2026
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Reviewed by Pikasho Deka for Readers' Favorite

Routine is a part of life. However, sometimes we become so accustomed to our routine that we let our lives run on autopilot. In Changing Course Gracefully, Elaina Kelly Smith presents the PARQS Framework to help you regain agency and control over your life. This practical blueprint enables you to determine if you're in a state of "Remote Control Living" and provides tools to guide you on your journey to rebuild self-trust. The framework involves five interconnected practices to help you restore authority over your own life. Identify what you really want and acquire awareness about where you are right now. Transform your awareness into self-trust by choosing to take the right action. Learn about self-acceptance and how to incorporate it into your everyday life.

At its core, Changing Course Gracefully is a transformative guide to living a fulfilling life. Author Elaina Kelly Smith takes readers through a step-by-step process that focuses on building a foundation of self-trust, so readers are able to find clarity and purpose by taking the reins of their own lives. I loved the fact that every practice or exercise featured in this book is practically applicable in everyday life. The book is also written in a way that is accessible and easy to follow. At the end of each chapter, you will find helpful questions and reflection spaces that make sure you have fully grasped the content. Smith also presents various scenarios that illustrate how some of the concepts presented in the book play out in real life. Highly recommended.

Makeda Cummings

Changing Course Gracefully by Elaina Kelly Smith is an enlightening self-help guide for anyone learning to trust themselves after years of autopilot living. Smith calls this “Remote Control Living”—making choices because we think we should, because it’s habitual, or out of guilt, rather than listening to what we actually want. She offers the PARQS framework, a five-step approach for slowing down and reconnecting with your own instincts. Each step is about noticing your preferences, tuning in to your body, acting honestly, asking kinder questions, and practicing self-acceptance. The book then explores how to use these steps in real life, such as making decisions, setting boundaries, dealing with work stress, caregiving, and overcoming burnout. It’s full of small, practical exercises that help you build steady self-trust and confidence over time.

Elaina Kelly Smith’s Changing Course Gracefully is a thoughtful self-help guide filled with practical ideas you can actually use. What sets it apart from similar books is how compassionate the tone feels throughout. Smith doesn’t yell “change your life now!” She writes in a straightforward and friendly way that makes the concepts manageable. Her focus on small, consistent actions and listening to your body gives it a real-world, grounded feel—perfect if you’re tired of big promises of transformation. Smith’s own fascinating life experiences make her voice relatable and personal without turning it into a memoir. The message throughout is about responsibility paired with kindness, not beating yourself up. For anyone who’s lost touch with their own needs or wants a gentler, more realistic approach to change, this book is a solid companion.

Carol Thompson

Changing Course Gracefully: A Strategic Guide to Building Foundational Self-Trust by Elaina Kelly Smith is a resource for individuals seeking to strengthen their sense of self and navigate life's challenges with confidence. The book offers a practical framework for personal growth, emphasizing self-trust as a cornerstone of decision-making and mindfulness. Smith introduces the PARQS Method, a structured approach to help individuals make intentional choices and build a solid foundation of self-assurance. The book offers actionable strategies, including breathing techniques such as "Box Breathing" and grounding exercises that engage the five senses. These practices are presented as tools to promote calm and clarity, making them suitable for most readers, though the author wisely advises consulting healthcare professionals for those with specific health concerns.

Although Elaina Kelly Smith is not a licensed medical or mental health professional, her guidance is grounded in a deep understanding of the challenges many face in building self-trust. Her approach is educational and empowering, and her writing is clear and engaging. She presents complex ideas comprehensively without oversimplifying them. She has put considerable thought and research into the book to help readers build a stronger connection with themselves. Changing Course Gracefully is a thoughtful guide for those seeking to navigate life’s uncertainties with intention. Smith’s insights and practical tools provide a roadmap for personal growth, helping readers cultivate a deeper sense of trust in their abilities and decisions. This book offers valuable perspectives and strategies for both new and seasoned readers of self-help literature.