Deleting Anxiety

Why Your Anxiety Is Lying to You and How to Push Back

Non-Fiction - Self Help
98 Pages
Reviewed on 02/01/2026
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Reviewed by Asher Syed for Readers' Favorite

In his self-help book Deleting Anxiety: Why Your Anxiety Is Lying to You and How to Push Back by Brian J. Fernandez, LMFT, anxiety is described as a survival alarm, misapplied in settings where it is wholly unnecessary. Fernandez explains how the brain converts the possibility of issues into certainty, then triggers a heightened form of bodily defense before conscious thought even emerges. Fernandez traces this sequence from threat detection through physical symptoms that narrow attention, then reinforce avoidance. He tells us that threat reappraisal is a cognitive action that revises perceived danger through observable evidence. This shift restores evaluative reasoning, where activation declines despite circumstances remaining unchanged. Through repeated use of his method, neural pathways reshape through neuroplastic change, weakening automatic responses across time.

Brian J. Fernandez’s Deleting Anxiety is a self-help guide that reframes fear responses through neuroscience, cognitive skill building, and behavioral application for readers. As someone who is frequently plagued with anxiety, it is an issue that has easily disrupted periods of work and even relationships. Fernandez does a great job of explaining the biology behind fear, which I found particularly helpful in understanding how this operates in this overstimulated digital age. His writing style is really comfortable and accessible, and includes wonderful practical applications readers can use immediately. As someone who has spent plenty of nights in bed, replaying conversations from decades ago in my mind and still feeling embarrassment and anxiety over them, Fernandez's method of practicing threat reappraisal during a racing thought at night is perfect. Overall, this is an excellent read. Very highly recommended.

Emily-Jane Hills Orford

“Anxiety is a natural human response.” There’s nothing wrong with you; you just need a little fine-tuning and recalibration. Brian J. Fernandez’s Deleting Anxiety will help you understand and respect your anxiety, what causes it, and how you can make it manageable. The author will help you find a way to overcome the symptoms of overthinking and excessive worry. But, most importantly, he will help you realize that you are not alone with this condition. And you’re not crazy! Those of us who struggle with chronic anxiety seek ways to understand it and build long-term emotional resilience, free of drugs and temporary fixes. The author equips the reader with tools to help them regain control over their thoughts, nervous system, and daily life. It stops us from allowing anxiety to prevent us from being our best.

Brian J. Fernandez’s Deleting Anxiety: Why Your Anxiety Is Lying to You and How to Push Back is more than a self-help book. It’s a method that’s been used and proven to be effective. Following a thorough introduction into anxiety and what causes it, the author leads the reader step by step through his methods of regaining control of ourselves, our minds, and our lives. The language is intense, but not technically complex, and allows the reader to fully understand what the author is sharing. The key takeaway point the author stresses is that “experiencing anxiety symptoms is not a weakness. It’s not crazy. It’s not a sign that something is fundamentally wrong with you.” Anxiety does, however, affect every other functioning part of the human body. He concludes the book with useful references and resources and an encouraging note to the reader.

Carol Thompson

Deleting Anxiety: Why Your Anxiety Is Lying to You and How to Push Back by Brian J. Fernandez is a nonfiction guide that explains anxiety through both neuroscience and lived experience. Written for teenagers and young adults, the book begins by normalizing anxiety as a biological response rather than a personal failing. Fernandez explains how the amygdala functions as the brain’s alarm system and why it often misfires in modern social and academic settings. Using clear examples, he shows how little possibilities are transformed into absolute certainties, leading the body to react as if danger is guaranteed. The book outlines the physical effects of anxiety on the heart, immune system, sleep, digestion, and concentration, emphasizing that anxiety affects the entire body, not just emotions. Throughout the book, Fernandez stresses the importance of practice, effort, and, when possible, working with a therapist to apply these skills consistently.

Brian J. Fernandez is intentionally reassuring, and the pacing is steady and logical, with each chapter building clearly on the previous one. Examples are repeated in varied contexts, reinforcing understanding and helping readers recognize patterns in their own thinking. Diagrams and analogies, such as the faulty smoke alarm and the cognitive triangle, enhance readers' comprehension and make the material memorable. Those interested in mental health, education, or self-improvement will enjoy the blend of science, practical exercises, and encouragement. Deleting Anxiety will be particularly appealing to readers who want tools they can apply immediately, as well as those seeking a clearer understanding of why anxiety is so powerful and how consistent mental habits can change that experience over time. It is a guide to refer to often.