Finding Value by Christine Cooper explores the dynamics of relationships and how various aspects, such as environment and upbringing, influence behavior. It also shows the importance of creating meaningful relationships based on respect and valuing others without devaluing oneself. Some ways to value oneself include getting enough rest, eating well, exercising, and spending time outside, among others. It is also important to create a roadmap of how you want to be treated by those close to you. Other important skills discussed include building confidence and the importance of getting out of your comfort zone and approaching things with an open mind, to see things from different perspectives. It is also important to learn how to add value to new relationships and look for something positive even when negative situations arise.

Finding Value by Christine Cooper has actionable points that readers will find useful and easy to apply, which makes the book very effective in passing on the intended message. I loved the theme of collaboration and seeing others as assets and not competition. The examples provided by the author are also on point, which helped to drive the message home. This is also a thought-provoking work on issues like racism and how perceptions can limit one’s potential. The narrative is good, and the reader will also appreciate the easy-to-understand language used, which makes the work accessible to all kinds of readers. This is a highly motivating read, and I look forward to reading something else by this talented author.

Finding Value: A Reforming Mean Girl’s Guide for Creating More Meaningful Connections was a pleasure to read in a world plagued by mean-spiritedness and snark. Author Christine Cooper offers personal observations, experiences, and practical advice for those seeking a more fulfilling life motivated by authentic connections rather than pettiness and jealousy. Inspired by her journey to find value, Cooper first establishes that values can only be found when we value ourselves. By doing so, we then have a better grasp of what is necessary to discover worth in others, especially those who are not like us. This simple but profound realization is at the core of the advice given by the author and, through scenarios, anecdotes, research, and consistent application of the golden rule, she provides a truly valuable guide for self-empowerment.

Perhaps the most impressive part of Finding Value is Christine Cooper’s willingness to reveal her own story with brutal honesty. One example is an especially poignant one where she reveals the circumstances of a miscarriage that occurred when she disregarded the advice of her physician, thinking the situation was far less serious than it was. Her regret is palpable. Another memorable example less personal but as powerful is a story, told by a wise philosopher, called “The Three Sieves” which illustrates how gossip can reveal much more about the gossiper than those he gossips about. I highly recommend this thoughtful self-help guide to all readers but especially to young women who are just learning to navigate the challenges of adult life to forge personal and professional connections that have true value.