Human, Flawed, Forgiven

Letting Go of Blame and Resentment Toward Your Parents (For Your Own Sake)

Non-Fiction - Self Help
159 Pages
Reviewed on 06/06/2024
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Reviewed by Emma Megan for Readers' Favorite

Human, Flawed, Forgiven is a valuable, transformative guide about forgiving your parents for the wrong they've done to you ... for your own sake. Selma J. Geis helps you free yourself from the resentment, bitterness, and anger that you may hold toward your parents if they were violent, neglectful, unsupportive, controlling, or absent when you were a child. Selma offers strategies, personal anecdotes, practical advice, and psychological insights to guide you in your healing process. This book explores the advantages of forgiveness and the weight of your childhood experiences. It shows how to nurture healthier relationships or rebuild broken ones. It dives into the differences between forgiving and reconciliation and between forgiving and forgetting, among other important things. The author encourages the reader to forgive their parents for their own peace of mind and happiness.

Human, Flawed, Forgiven motivates and compassionately guides you through the process of letting go of thoughts and feelings of anger, bitterness, resentment, revenge, and pain. If you find yourself an adult with anger and trust issues, low self-esteem, and relationship problems due to your parents' abuse or neglect, this book is for you. It's so profoundly enlightening and empowering that it can change your life. It shows you the steps toward liberation and profound self-growth. Selma J. Geis reminds us that the power to forgive and heal lies within us. With warmth and wisdom, the author discusses self-forgiveness, self-reflection, self-compassion, breaking the chains of resentment, the five steps to forgiveness and the REACH model, types of boundaries, and types of attachment styles. Most importantly, this must-read book helps you break the cycle of negative behavior you may find yourself repeating with your own children.

Pikasho Deka

Not everyone has the perfect relationship with their parents. A turbulent relationship with parents can often lead to deep-rooted emotional and psychological issues in people well into adulthood. However, to leave the baggage of the past behind, one must learn to forgive their parents for all their flaws and mistakes. With Human, Flawed, Forgiven, Selma J. Geis explores the long-term impact of childhood experiences on people's emotional well-being, cognitive development, relationships, social skills, behavioral patterns, self-esteem, identity, etc. In this book, the author shows how we can use forgiveness to mend relationships, raise our self-esteem, restore positive thinking, manage conflict, and nurture compassion, hope, and optimism. You will also learn about acknowledging your emotions, the benefits of self-reflection, expressing gratitude, developing empathy, setting boundaries, celebrating forgiveness, reforging relationships with communication, accountability, embracing growth and change, and more.

Too often people find themselves unable to let go of the anger and resentment they feel toward their parents, and it ends up creating toxicity in their own lives. Human, Flawed, Forgiven is a comprehensive guide to help readers identify those negative emotions and cycles of pain and find a way to navigate and overcome these feelings by practicing forgiveness. Selma J. Geis takes you on a transformative journey with this absorbing self-help handbook that educates as well as motivates you to take the first step toward a hopeful tomorrow. Among other things, this illuminating guide will also teach you to practice mindfulness and help you nurture and develop emotional intelligence. Geis has an accessible writing style, so readers will have no trouble understanding the concepts and practices discussed. Highly recommended.

Courtnee Turner Hoyle

Selma J. Geis wrote Human, Flawed, Forgiven to help individuals release negative emotions about their parents and forgive them. After urging readers to reevaluate their feelings about their childhoods, she targets the burden of unforgiveness and how it impacts their lives. The author shares her experience with her parents, outlining her feelings about her father in detail. Other topics include the kind of attachment you have in your current relationships, acknowledging and processing your emotions, exploring empathy, understanding compassion for yourself and others, and ideas for setting boundaries. Geis discusses the types of forgiveness, evaluates the REACH model, and encourages you to determine whether you can reconcile with your caregivers and reopen the lines of communication, if applicable and reasonable.

Selma J. Geis provides helpful tips for coping with your feelings as you explore them, allowing you to break the cycle so you don't hurt others around you with your unprocessed trauma. After reading the book, I felt like it was easier to let go of resentment and embrace the positives in my life. Even though Geis focuses on parents, she states the information in the book applies to any caregiver relationship. Even though certain traumas may have shaped our lives negatively, we have the opportunity to forgive the people who damaged us, making us feel empowered as we remain authentic. The author helps us realize that our past caregivers are human. Like us, they are flawed, and we have the power to forgive them. Readers who are ready to navigate the events and emotions from their childhood and process any generational trauma will benefit from reading Human, Flawed, Forgiven.