Friend Grief and AIDS:

Thirty Years of Burying Our Friends

Non-Fiction - Grief/Hardship
54 Pages
Reviewed on 12/20/2013
Buy on Amazon

This author participates in the Readers' Favorite Book Review Exchange Program, which is open to all authors and is completely free. Simply put, you agree to provide an honest review an author's book in exchange for the author doing the same for you. What sites your reviews are posted on (B&N, Amazon, etc.) and whether you send digital (eBook, PDF, Word, etc.) or hard copies of your books to each other for review is up to you. To begin, click the purple email icon to send this author a private email, and be sure to describe your book or include a link to your Readers' Favorite review page or Amazon page.

This author participates in the Readers' Favorite Book Donation Program, which was created to help nonprofit and charitable organizations (schools, libraries, convalescent homes, soldier donation programs, etc.) by providing them with free books and to help authors garner more exposure for their work. This author is willing to donate free copies of their book in exchange for reviews (if circumstances allow) and the knowledge that their book is being read and enjoyed. To begin, click the purple email icon to send this author a private email. Be sure to tell the author who you are, what organization you are with, how many books you need, how they will be used, and the number of reviews, if any, you would be able to provide.

Author Biography

Victoria Noe has been a writer most of her life, but didn’t admit it until 2009.

After earning a masters in Speech & Dramatic Art from the University of Iowa, she moved to Chicago, where she worked professionally as a stage manager, director and administrator in addition to being a founding board member of the League of Chicago Theatres. She then transferred her skills to being a professional fundraiser, raising money for arts, educational and AIDS service organizations, and later an award-winning sales consultant of children’s books. Noe also trained hundreds of people around the country in marketing, event planning and grant writing.

But after a concussion impacted her ability to continue in sales, she switched gears to keep a promise to a dying friend to write a book.

That book is now a series. The first three – Friend Grief and Anger: When Your Friend Dies and No One Gives A Damn; Friend Grief and AIDS: Thirty Years of Burying Our Friends and Friend Grief and 9/11: The Forgotten Mourners were published in 2013. Future books in the series (in 2014) will address grieving friends in the military and workplace grief.

Noe is a member of Alliance of Independent Authors (ALLI), Chicago Writers Association and ACT UP/NY. Her freelance articles have appeared on grief and writing blogs as well as Windy City Times, Chicago Tribune and Huffington Post. In addition, she reviews a wide variety of books on A native St. Louisan, she is a life-long Cardinals fan

    Book Review

Reviewed by Eileen Johnson for Readers' Favorite

Friend Grief and AIDS: Thirty Years of Burying Our Friends by Victoria Noe is one of a series of books about techniques for handling grief. This particular book speaks to a generation of people who lived through the beginning of an epidemic that has killed a generation of young gay men. Those of us who were there will remember the beginning of the ACT UP (AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power) group that was one reaction to the grief we were feeling. The world has learned about the AIDS quilt that has been added to until it is too large to display in one place. Noe identifies both of these reactions as very real techniques for handling the grief – one reaction was very political and the other more artistic. However, both of these techniques addressed the frustration and grief we were feeling.

I was a nurse in a city with a large population of gay men during the beginning of the AIDS epidemic. Gay men were my co-workers and friends – and I watched most of them die before we even knew much about the disease. Friend Grief and AIDS very clearly identifies the frustration and fear all of us felt during this time. Noe provides a perspective on this time that needs to be shared with those who want to be infected, intentionally seeking partners who are infected. These young people need to read about a time when the infection they want to get was an absolute death sentence. Friend Grief and AIDS: Thirty Years of Burying Our Friends by Victoria Noe should be required reading for those who would dishonor the memory of those who have died from AIDS.