Reviewed by Karen Pirnot for Readers' Favorite
He Said, She Said, I Said by Barbara Peters provides basic communication tips for those in young relationships. The author stresses basic listening skills, as well as tips on how to listen and how to respond in a respectful, direct and positive manner. She says both parties must be willing to negotiate in order to settle the issues at hand, and effective communication is the hallmark of good relationships.
Topics such as abusive argumentative styles, failing to communicate one's own needs, controlling and parenting responses and full-scale fighting are addressed, with the author acting as mediator and pointing out styles in which accusations and responses set the mood for failure to resolve relationship issues. There are seven characteristics which tend to make healthy relationships: communication, trust, forgiveness, intimacy, acceptance, friendship and love. If one or more of the characteristics is not chosen, there are problems in the relationship; the seven keys to success are highly dependent upon each partner's ability to leave the past behind and to practice a respectful and positive relationship.
This book will be helpful for young people who are exploring relationships or contemplating marriage. It may be a bit too simplistic for those already in pathological relationships who have a stake in holding to their own rigid needs and wants. However. it is a lovely and informative book which should point young people in the right direction.