Say Goodbye to Your PDI (Personality Disordered Individual)

Recognize People Who Make You Miserable and Eliminate Them from Your Life for Good!

Non-Fiction - Health - Fitness
256 Pages
Reviewed on 03/14/2009
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Reviewed by Anne Boling for Readers' Favorite

My husband has commented more than once that I seem to attract some odd characters. They cling to me. I can think of one particular person that after a few hours in their company I feel smothered. They are “needy” and always wanting attention. I can think of another that leaves me exhausted just listening to him/her talk about all their problems. I could go on and on. I try to avoid these people but it is hard to do when they are family.

“PDIs have expectations like “Never criticize me,” “Always be there,” Give me all of your attention,” “Take all my hurt away,” “Don’t get close,” “Your are here to serve only me,” and “Always treat me as extra special.” Stan Kapuchinski stresses that you will not be able to please a PDI.

I wish I had read this book years-ago. The information is written in a simple easy to understand style. The true-life stories are interesting and add much to the text. This is a must read book.

Daniel Bierman

I have recently finished reading this book and all I can say is WOW! The author does an excellent job of keeping things simple, and gives many examples so that you are able to identify and eliminate these people from your life. I also liked the way he took the time to explain things in a way that made sense to me personally. I am 52 now, and feel that I have been victimized by at least a dozen of these types of people during my lifetime. It seems that I always blamed myself, but now because of this book I know better. Now I know: "when in doubt keep them out!" If you have people that are making your life miserable, get this book, it offers practical solutions for eliminating them from your life.

Joan E. Flynn

Dr. Kapuchinski has written an informative and very readable guide to identifying and handling people with personality problems. The book helped me understand that walking away was the only good solution to my own involvement with a PDI. I was also able to let go of the idea that the relationship failed because I didn't "try hard enough." The book's format covers personal and professional relationships with practical examples of how to handle problems, what you can and cannot expect from a PDI and how to keep your sanity. It was educational but also used humor which made the book easier to read than other self help books I've read.

Anne Marie Connolly

Dr. Stan's book is enlightening! Over the years, I have encountered several PDI's (but did not know it). I have attempted to change their behavior, they have successfully manipulated situtions, and in some cases made me believe it was me that was the problem--well...NO MORE--after reading this book I can SAY GOODBYE to my PDI'S!!!! THANKS Dr. Stan!

Mm Crandlemire

This book is amazing. Everyone who has worked or lived with someone who puts people down all of the time and makes you feel miserable should definitely read this book. It will help you understand it is not YOU!

Ronald Shaver

The book is well written and easy to understand as well as entertaining. We all have to deal with individuals with that nagging Axis II Disorder and this book takes some of the edge of that ordeal. A great way to develop insight into how to deal more effectively with that annoying boss, coworker, in-law or acquaintance.


This book was very revealing and explained in laymans terms what
a toxic personality is. I found it very helpful.

Bryan Hopkins

I enjoyed the book. It helped me to understand me better and why I keep subjecting myself to the same kind of people.