Reviewed by Constance Stadler for Readers' Favorite

You Really, Truly Belong by Gina Casazza is about the travels of an alien coming to Earth, seeking friends. Beginning the search, the little alien encounters a group of lacrosse players, but not knowing how to play the game, the surety of not fitting in takes root. Moving along on this journey, children are happily dancing and singing. In lacking these abilities, rejection becomes a certainty. Other disappointments appear to ensure loneliness on this new planet. However, with renewed determination, the alien climbs a tree to scan the horizon – seeing an empty town, a sense of disappointment begins to grow. A beckoning voice leads to a theatrical stage. As the alien peers through the curtains, the audience affirms a warm welcome that would have been extended if the alien stayed for just a few more minutes. What truly mattered was not a skill or activity but having an open heart, and great joy is expressed through a collective hug.

Elementary school teachers and child psychologists appreciate the compelling need for the young to belong. Acceptance by a group is often a great concern for children. When seemingly ostracized, a child may internalize perceived condemnation. Recognizing and appreciating this need reflects the theme of You Really, Truly Belong. Making the main character an alien parallels the pain of alienation. As frequently underscored in the story, without taking the time to establish personal value, internal condemnation may result. The search for friendship by the little alien reflects significant life lessons – earning the trust of others and approaching peers without the presumption of dismissal can markedly fortify developing self-esteem. This is an engaging tale with lovely illustrations by Lia Ampleeva. When read along with a parent, this sensitive issue may be considered in depth. Gina Casazza has written a book that may prove to be very important in helping a young reader establish their distinctive identity.