Addicted to Hate

Fiction - General
328 Pages
Reviewed on 11/05/2018
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Reviewed by Lorraine Cobcroft for Readers' Favorite

Lucia Mann says, 'Parents abused by adult children suffer silently, shamed to the marrow by words, moods, acts, and blows that pierce through their imagined bubble of safety and kidnap any notions they had of sharing a mutually loving relationship with their children.' In Addicted to Hate, Lucia Mann relates a heart-wrenching tale of a woman who, after suffering hideous ongoing abuse and injustice, loves her three 'miracle' daughters unconditionally. Endlessly forgiving and excessively indulging, she feeds their sociopathic expectations and tolerates their shocking abuse, destroying relationships that might have finally brought her peace and happiness, and making her own life a living hell. And yet, she survives. Here and there, she reaps little rewards. She enjoys little victories. Ultimately, she finds the strength to defend her own right to happiness, and she builds a world in which she finds peace. Ultimately, her limitless capacity to love is rewarded.

Addicted to Hate is a challenging read in some respects, because it highlights a tragedy that causes indescribable pain for some parents. It shines a light on the frailty of humans and the appalling inhumanity of some of our species. But throughout a tale of suffering, there are glimmers of hope and reassurances of goodness and love. Whenever Maddie is at rock bottom, an angel appears and extends the kindnesses that reassure us of the inherent goodness in most of our kind. Maddie is a survivor. We can't help being in awe of her strength and courage. She richly deserves the admiration and gifts of love she receives at times of greatest need. Her innate intelligence and amazing capabilities might make it difficult for us to believe that people could treat her with such contempt, and impossible to comprehend the hatred and cruelty of the daughters she fought so fiercely to protect and showered with so much love. But if you have ever known a true sociopath intimately... if you have suffered the pain of being seriously abused by someone you love... you will relate to Maddie's flawed response to cruelty and ingratitude. You will recognize her abusers and understand her world. Hopefully, you will be inspired and reassured by her final victory, however hollow it may seem to some.

Addicted to Hate plumbs the depths of human psychology. Lucia Mann is a humanitarian and activist who has clearly seen and studied, in depth, the sociopathic psyche and the workings of the minds of survivors of the sociopath's torment. She offers us insight that is both shocking and inspiring. Lucia says her mission is to give voice to sufferers of brutalities and captivity. In Addicted to Hate, she gives voice to the Maddies of this world, whose undeserved sufferings seem never to destroy the inner strength and goodness that sociopathic partners and offspring so cruelly exploit. Hopefully, she brings wisdom, understanding, strength and hope to some of those who need it, and to so many of us who too often stand on the sidelines when we have the opportunity to help. It's a challenging read, but one that I am confident will leave you richer in understanding and empathy and greatly enriched in strength, courage, and capacity to love.

Viga Boland

Orphaned and abandoned at a young age, Maddie is subjected to botched sterilization. Yet, strangely, despite ectopic pregnancies and breech births, over the course of her adult years she gives birth to several children. Duped and raped for years by an abusive partner who ultimately turns two of her daughters against her, in her desperate need for love and self-esteem, if such a thing is possible, she “overloves” her abusive, manipulative daughters. She is a pawn in their hands, always giving in to what they want in the hope that they will love her for it. Unfortunately, all her love and kindness does is make them take more advantage of her. Almost immediately after her third child, Mara, is born, Maddie senses evil in Mara. This is the point where both she and the reader sense something surreal in Maddie’s universe. Is Maddie just jinxed? The reader will come away debating whether what happens with her children was her fault or some unnatural force beyond her control.

Reading Addicted to Hate by Lucia Mann is a most unusual experience...even slightly mystical, almost surreal. The explanation for that sensation is actually found after you reach “The End”, meaning you need to read the whole book to really understand how the protagonist, Maddie, managed to survive the ugly blows that life dealt her, primarily at the hands of those she loved. Addicted to Hate spans several decades, making this novel a long read in the sense of trying to remember times and places in Maddie’s past. Good things do happen for her eventually in both her career and in her marriage to her soul-mate. But her life’s emotional and physical struggle is a hard-won battle. While Lucia Mann has classified this book as fiction, there is a strong sense that much of the story is factual, especially given the author’s own beginnings and biography. Of course, only Lucia Mann can clarify whether this is truly fiction…or faction. An intriguing read from a prolific author.