Things I Never Told My Father

Growing Up Gay as a Preacher's Son

Non-Fiction - Memoir
348 Pages
Reviewed on 05/19/2024
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Reviewed by K.C. Finn for Readers' Favorite

Things I Never Told My Father: Growing Up Gay as a Preacher's Son is a work of non-fiction in the memoir, slice-of-life, and LGBTQ+ genres. It is best suited to the mature adult reading audience owing to references to sex and sensitive subject matter including a suicide attempt. Penned by author Jeffrey L. Carrier, this heartfelt memoir chronicles his journey of self-acceptance and coming to terms with his sexuality while growing up in the Bible Belt of East Tennessee. Despite his father being a preacher who views homosexuality as a sin, Carrier grapples with same-sex fantasies from early childhood. Through moments of pleasure and guilt, he navigates his sexuality, finding support from influential figures like his grandmothers, an open-minded aunt, and a nurturing professor's wife. The memoir culminates in his acceptance of his sexuality amidst the backdrop of the AIDS crisis, leading him from Tennessee to Manhattan and eventually to a life intertwined with old Hollywood glamour.

Author Jeffrey L. Carrier holds nothing back when crafting this deeply moving and insightful journey into the complexities of sexuality and self-acceptance. There’s a candidness and heartfelt quality to the narrative flow of this immersive memoir that offers readers a poignant portrayal of the challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals, particularly in conservative religious environments. This message is more resonant now than ever in modern society. Carrier's raw narrative skillfully captures the conflicting emotions of pleasure and guilt, as well as the journey of coming to terms with one's identity despite the voices and influences of others who seek to shame or change people. His depiction of the people who supported him along the way was filled with brilliant characterization and tender exchanges, highlighting the importance of acceptance and love in navigating personal struggles. The memoir's exploration of love, loss, and resilience in the face of societal stigma and personal hardship was both touching and inspiring too. Overall, Things I Never Told My Father is a powerful memoir that I would certainly recommend to one and all.

Susana Uballe

Jeffrey Carrier is an excellent storyteller and his journey is compelling and relevant. You feel his sincerity as you walk along with him through his life challenges and victories.