Twelve Guaranteed Ways to Stay Miserable, or Not...

(Secrets to Eliminating Depression, Anxiety and Other Emotional Pitfalls)

Non-Fiction - Self Help
Kindle Edition
Reviewed on 10/02/2011
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Reviewed by Anne Boling for Readers' Favorite

Patricia Zerman’s book, Twelve Guaranteed Ways To Stay Miserable, Or Not, is like a lifeline for the depressed, rejected, and anxious. Zerman has a delightful and humorous way of reaching people. Her style is unique and refreshing.

Private Detective Rutgar and his faithful dog, Rocky, are on a mission to find out why people like to live in Misery. “People continuously ask Rutgar to get them out of messes instead of doing it themselves. He helps them out. But they never seem to learn. Until they help themselves, they will never truly resolve the problem.”

“Many people live in Misery; they may say they want to leave but they rarely do.” Posted at the city's entrance was a list of 12 rules and regulations for living there. Among the rules were:
• Never Be Selfish
• Avoid and Pretend
• Stay Immobilized in Fear
• Lie To Yourself and Others
• React and Become Defensive
• Rationalize, Analyze and Stuff
• Point One Finger Out
• Manipulate and Have Motives
• Swim In Guilt and Carry the Burdens of the World
• Hold Onto Your Anger, Resentment and Blame
• Worry
• Don’t Ever Risk
I won’t explain each of the rules in this the book. Unfortunately, I saw myself in several of these rules. I followed along with Rutgar and Rocky on their quest. Like them, I found Misery disgusting and not a place where I want to stay. Rutgar knew there was a better way to live. With the desire to help others, Rutgar created his own list: Twelve Guaranteed Ways To Leave Misery. Again,….Read the book for more information.

Zerman continues her book by expounding on each “step” for leaving Misery behind. After each step is discussed, she has “Suggested Starting Points.” One of the most important parts of this book is the Appendix. It is putting into action what you learned from reading the book. One of the suggestions is to learn to say, "Thank You" for the bad times as well as the good ones. Unpleasant experiences show us where we are emotionally “stuck.””You are thanking this mess for reminding you something is stuck inside you.” Zerman points out the positive: “To love ourselves, to express ourselves, we are worthy, etc.” There is much more I would love to tell you about but then you wouldn’t read the book.

I love Zerman’s approach. It is unique to what most counselors would take. She is an encourager. She offers us the way to freedom.

Anne Boling

Twelve Guaranteed Ways to Stay Miserable, Or Not: Mini-Memory Jogger by Paticia Zerman is a follow up to her first book Twelve Guaranteed Ways to Stay Miserable.

There are people crawling through life depressed, miserable, feeling rejected, and sick and tired! Zerman does not say what you want to hear; her desire is not to please people but to help them. People are struggling through life with emotional pitfalls, anxiety attacks and depression. It is Zerman’s desire to help those people understand their worthiness. This book is a mini version of the first book. It is designed to remind us of what we learned in the first book.

Ms. Zerman cleverly walks the reader through the twelve rules that are guaranteed to make a person miserable and gives us twelve steps to leave Misery behind. This is a condensed version to assist the readers in remembering what they learned in the first book.

Among the steps are learning to be selfish, placing yourself first or learning to say NO, stop ignoring or pretending that a problem doesn’t exist, worry, hopelessness, fear and lies. She continues by addressing reaction and a defensive attitudes, point blame, rationalizing and analyzing, manipulating others, anger and resentment, and taking risks. Ms. Zerman is offering readers freedom...freedom from a life filled with misery.

I very much enjoyed Ms. Zerman’s book. I learned much about myself, and it was humorous and informative, a pleasure to read. The text is easy to read and understand, and it is well organized. I would very much like to attend one of Ms. Zerman’s seminars.