Reviewed by Asher Syed for Readers' Favorite

Where You Are Really From by Dr. Rolade Berthier leans into how a seemingly simple question about where someone is “really” from is problematic in many ways. Berthier talks about how that question has followed her through routine life in places like Thionville, on public transport into Luxembourg, and in her teaching work, frequently reappearing in places of formal authority, like police checks and airport security. In these examples and others, Berthier separates curiosity from genuinely wanting to know a person, from an overt attempt at racial classification. She returns to moments when her first answer is treated as insufficient and is met with follow-up questions related to what others think they see or hear. Through research, Berthier frames the question as an act that can quietly deny belonging, disguised as ordinary conversation.

As someone who was born and raised in Asia and who moved to England as a very young adult, I was immediately drawn to Where You Are Really From by Dr. Rolade Berthier. I thought I was well-versed on microaggression, but Berthier revealed so much more. I appreciate that Berthier does not posture or sermonize, and instead chooses a route that simply documents and explains, and then steps back, allowing the stories and research to speak for themselves. The writing style is largely conversational and feels like sitting across the table with a wise friend. The standout section for me is on accent, something that I am repeatedly questioned about. My speech and cadence are fully British without a hint of the subcontinent, and I am frequently complimented on it, as if it is some sort of achievement. Strangely, my American wife is complimented on the exact opposite—that she has retained her American accent in England, proving Berthier's examples of a double standard. Overall, this is an insightful and important book that is also a pleasure to read. Very highly recommended.